Episode 34- I'm Not Good Enough or I'm Too Much

Journal Prompt:

1. What messages did you internalize as a child from your parents? 

2. Do you feel like you are not good enough? Do you feel this in general as a human, or are there certain aspects you feel that you are not good enough at?

3. Do you feel like you are too much? What are you too much of? Too talkative, too needy, too emotional, too annoying…..

4. What messages or behaviors from your parents during childhood made you feel the things in question 2 and 3?

5. Make a list of things that you do that prove you are good enough. For example, I don’t depend on others for my existence, I do my job well, I am a good parent/partner/friend/family member, I have achieved my goals of_______, etc.

6. Make a list of ways you are not too much. For example, I don't do all the talking when with others, I don’t whine and complain about every little thing, I reciprocate communication and friendship instead of being one sided, etc.

7. Keep your lists from question 5 and 6 handy so when you start to feel like you are not good enough or too much you can remind yourself that you are not.

8. Who do you have as support that sees you as not too much and good enough as who you are? When you think that you are too much or not good enough, ask yourself if that person(s) would agree with you?